Groom Speech Structure

So How to Structure your Groom Speech?

There is an awful to to pack into a groom’s speech and unless you have a well worked plan the whole things can start to become an epic mess of thanks, acknowledgements, stories, toasts and tears. You need to map out who to talk about, where to place them in the speech and how many words should do the trick.

If you are planning on making this a ten minute eulogy to your wife, then think again. Every speech needs balance an id you attempt to talk exclusively for half an hour about the bride and how much you love her, the guests’ patience is going to wear pretty thing, pretty quickly.

Highlight the key people you want to talk about, rough out a first draft and then shrink it down from there.

What is the Perfect Structure?

The perfect groom speech structure is one that demands as little from the guests as possible. It should be easy to follow, and not consist of huge chunks on one topic. As I’ve said many times – less is more when it comes to wedding speeches.It’s a good idea to base your structure around a word count, so have 1300 words as your end count, and this will help you split the sections of your speech into a suitable length

A simple structure is what you’re looking for, so after the welcome, head to the other main players in the wedding and deal them all an equal billing. Don’t get caught up going into detail with anyone. You have to resist the urge to smother the speech with detail until you arrive at the point of talking about the bride – then you can go for it.

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You have all the toasts to make and that could amount to four! Keep them well spaced, never make people stand and make them as clear as possible.

One Direction

You want a start point and an end. Don’t be tempted to flit backwards and forwards from point to point. This is a common mistake when it comes to talking about the bride.

The Parents

A very common mistake is to give short shrift to your own parents and five minutes to your new in laws. Keep it balanced and don’t get carried away.

This is not Facebook Live. This is not an opportunity for you to list the amazing lifestyle you may think you have. Try not to drop too many ‘aren’t we great?’ clangers. 

The Bridesmaids

It’s your job to talk about the bridesmaids, not the best man, so don’t forget to put them in the speech in the run up to talking about the bride.


There should be no lengthy paragraphs, no wall of words and no really long sentences. You’re writing this to be spoken, not to win a literary award.


Personally I never hand over to the best man as I think the speech should finish with your commitment to the bride. Handovers are ok, but avoid the speech becoming best man heavy.