Writing Wedding Speeches
Wedding speeches, for most of us, are the pinnacle of our public speaking lives. It’s usually the only point in your existence where you’ll have to stand up and say something funny and/or heartfelt about somebody close to you. More than anything in the world you just don’t want to muck it up but it’s the expectation, the pressure, the grandness and expense of the day that conspires to make many speakers a little bit nervous about the whole thing.
The difficult aspect about wedding speeches is that nearly everyone who has to make one will have little or no experience of public speaking and if they do, it almost certainly won’t involve a comedy remit. And the pressure to be funny can be stifling. I speak to many people all over the world who can deliver a corporate speech but when it comes to being funny and genuinely funny at that, it’s just a complete mystery to them, and that’s totally understandable. Not everybody can perform heart bypass surgery and not everyone can fix a car, so why should everyone just be able to turn their hands to comedy wedding speeches?
if you’ve got enough time to plan, research, write, rewrite and rehearse, then a great wedding speech can be yours, and if you’re up for that challenge I’ve laid out some hints and tips to help you along the way.
The Best Man Speech
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Father of the Bride Speech
You are the first on so you’ll really be dictating the way the speeches are received. If you kick it off in style the whole wedding speech section will go swimmingly but if it’s an awkward and jarring start you’re going to make it uncomfortable for the guests and the other speakers. Always attempt something funny within the first two lines – the longer they wait for it the harder it will be to come. Keep the journey through your daughter’s life light on detail and always lace with the odd comedy observation. Save the emotion until the end and let it swamp things.
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The Groom Speech
This should be the most straightforward speech but if you simply turn it into a list of thanks then you’ve really missed an opportunity. A wedding speech without humour is also inexcusable, as it will just become a blur of acknowledgments and sentiment. So, think how you can make anything from your parents to the first date funny and leave your bride until the end. Keep the emotion real and honest and let the guests enjoy a few tears as well as laughs.
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Maid of Honour Speeches
This speech is becoming increasingly popular in our weddings where everyone likes the opportunity to say their bit. It really is exactly the same as the father of the bride speech – keep the detail light, have some good dollops of humour in amongst the memories and avoid clichéd wedding jokes like the plague. If this is bolting on to the usual three speeches then it should be no longer than 7 minutes.
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The Order of Wedding Speeches
The order of wedding speeches is something that worries a lot of people but there is a tried and tested formula on to which you can add. It goes like this: Father of the Bride, Groom, Best Man. It really is as simple as that but modern couples like to do things differently and so it’s not unheard of to have up to six wedding speeches. If you want to add speakers into this format then always keep the best man at the end.
Having anymore than 3 speakers at a wedding is only going to impact on the patience and goodwill of the people who matter most: your guests. So, there are three golden rules if you are going to ramp up the number of wedding speeches:
Time limit – the more speakers, the shorter the speeches. Make them stick to it.
Toasts – check nobody is toasting the same people.
Thanks – check nobody is thanking the same people.
If you’ve got wedding speeches that are heading anywhere near the hour mark then that’s a catastrophe and if they’re doubling up on toasts and thanks, then you’ll soon have a mutiny on your hands. It might sound heavy handed but if you give the speakers set guidelines and coordinate their content, then you’ll have less chance of guest fatigue developing and everyone will have a much more enjoyable time.