How to write your own father of the bride speech
With enough time on your side writing your very own speech is entirely within your grasp, but time to think and be creative and hopefully funny is essential.
A brilliant way to help guide you though this process on your own is a good quality template that holds your hand from beginning to end.
It should be there as a rock solid guide, offering a framework for you to personalise and edit as much as you see fit, but at the same ensure you don’t forget anyone and know how to structure your speech.
Below I’ve listed some thoughts and ideas that once you have a template, you can use to make it sound a lot more like you.
The father of the bride speech is pretty easy to get wrong because there’s a temptation for some dads to turn it into a huge exercise in showboating. Plus you’re the first guy on and people expect to be engaged, entertained and tickled, so setting exactly the right tone is critical. Below I’ve listed some thoughts on how to get it right.
The Perfect Ending
The perfect ending for a father of the bride speech is short, sweet and simple. Don’t be tempted to create a huge crescendo like ending where you bring all her triumphs and perceived glory into play, yet again.
You just need to tell the room that the little girl you brought into this world is a rather lovely young woman and you think she’s great. .
Less is more
You’ve known your daughter for quite some time now so there’s plenty of material to be had. There will be lots of little and some not so little examples how her character has developed over the years, so use those but spare us the detail because there’s a fine line between telling her story and reading out her life CV. We don’t need to know her 100m times or that she came top in her cycling proficiency class.
Unlike the best man, the dating days are fair game for a father of the bride speech. You’ve got to keep it light hearted and never be tempted to use too much detail, and of course never be tempted to use names. This should be a gentle, fun way of looking at some of your daughter’s less distinguished decision making whilst of course acknowledging just how much better she’s got at it.
This is a big moment in your life; your little girl is officially leaving your family and starting one of her very own, so of course it’s going to be an emotionally charged day. However, making your speech 1000 words of blubbering breakdown is about as counterproductive as you can get. Keep yourself together and deliver it with measured but obvious sentiment.
It’s about the funny
Every speech at a wedding should be funny, otherwise it’s a wasted opportunity and quite frankly the guests deserve better. The trick comes with knowing how to pitch that humour in such away that it’s inclusive and genuinely funny, what I would call daft humour. This is not the time to be edgy. If you’ve written something for after the watershed, think again.
Keep the Advice
A very painful, hackneyed and boring way to end the speech is to go down the well trodden path of marital/life advice. The main problem is that it’s never very funny and comes and exactly the wrong point. To say something sincere about the groom and/or happy couple and then go into a slapstick routine about how to make a marriage work is misguided at best. Avoid at all costs.
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