” You’re the first guy on and people expect to be engaged, entertained and tickled, so setting exactly the perfect tone is critical – below I’ve listed some thoughts on how to get it right “
Every speech at a wedding should be entertaining, otherwise it’s a wasted opportunity and quite frankly the guests deserve better. The trick comes with knowing how to pitch that humour in such away that it’s inclusive and genuinely funny, what I would call daft humour. This is not the time to be edgy. If you’ve written something for after the watershed, think again.
You’ve known your daughter for quite some time now, so there’s plenty of fantastic material to be had. There will be lots of little and some, not so little, examples of how her character has developed over the years, but use the detail sparingly, there’s a fine line between telling her story and reading out her life CV. It’s great, but we don’t need to know that she came top in her cycling proficiency class.
Unlike the best man, the dating days are fair game for a father of the bride speech. You’ve got to keep it light hearted and of course never be tempted to use names. This should be a gentle, fun way of looking at some of your daughter’s less distinguished decision making, whilst of course acknowledging just how much better she’s got at it.
This is a big moment in your life – your little girl is officially leaving your family and starting one of her very own, so of course it’s going to be an emotionally charged day. However, making your speech 1000 words of blubbering breakdown is about as counterproductive as you can get. Keep yourself together and deliver it with measured but obvious sentiment.
A very painful, hackneyed and boring way to end the speech is to go down the well trodden path of marital advice. The main problem is that it’s never very funny and comes and exactly the wrong point. To say something sincere about the happy couple and then go into a slapstick routine about how to make a marriage work is misguided at best. Avoid at all costs.
Speak from your soul, an uplifting finale of your wishes for the future is perfect. Possibly the only opportunity you’ll ever have to express such emotion in public. Forget that anybody is listening, take your heart and pin it firmly on your sleeve
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