So, how can I judge the length of my speech?

Every speech whether it’s political, corporate, a wedding speech or a eulogy, always works much better the more succinct it is. There is no point in talking just for the sake of it, or in the mistaken belief that in order to do justice to the occasion a 30 minute mini lecture is the only answer.

Of course there is the other side of the coin, and there are quite a few of you in this group, who just want to stand up and sit down around 30 seconds later. 

Both camps have got it wrong. You need to be up there long enough so that everyone knows how great you think your daughter is, but not so long they feel they know her favourite English teacher intimately. 

How many minutes?

Very roughly speaking the perfect speech length is about 7 minutes – that is to say an actual talking time of 7 minutes. If you’ve done your job well there should be a few laughs, a few bouts of applause and maybe even one or two heckles, so on the day it will be more like 10 minutes.

If you write a speech that comes in at 10 minutes when you’re reading it at home, that could become 15 minutes on the day, and that’s far too long.

Read it slowly, plenty of pauses and if you hit 7 minutes at home, you’re bang on.

WOULD YOU LIKE SOME HELP WITH YOUR SPEECH?

sticky separations

 

Marriage is a time for new beginnings and emotions can run high during the day itself. Decide to keep your phrasing inclusive and message positive, this isn’t the time for point scoring , no matter what has happened in the past. Welcome guests on behalf of your, ‘ family ‘ rather than your former wife or new wife. Be gracious with your spirit and generous with your words.

NOT KEEN ON YOUR SON IN LAW?

If you’re feeling as though this guy may not be the Prince Charming you would have expected for your beloved princess, now is not the moment to let it show. Rise above your concerns and concentrate on what is good about him.  Come on, there’s got to be something!

 

tricky family set ups

 

The wedding day should be full of love and laughter not family drama. Marriage offers dreams for the future and could your chance to write a fresh page in your family story. Set aside any negativity, step up to fatherly duty and spread the love….

5 Ways to keep your nerves under control

✔️Transform your nervous energy into enthusiasm – an energetic speech will win out over an eloquent one

✔️Adjust to your surroundings – practice standing in your place and looking outwards until you feel comfortable

✔️Don’t fight the fear – accept the feeling, rationalise it,  then embrace the thrill

✔️Positive thoughts – forget thinking you’re going to be a shambles, imagine applause, visualise smiling faces, expect a superb outcome